Being a Carer
When people who have had a stroke become frustrated or angry, they often direct this at their family or those caring for them. If you are a carer, you may from time to time be on the receiving end of angry outbursts that frighten or upset you, especially if they feel like a personal attack.
Sometimes anger and aggression can be avoided. Try to give the person you are caring for as much choice as possible, even down to small things – like which socks they want to wear. These are normal, everyday choices they would have made for themselves prior to the stroke. Be patient; allow plenty of time for them to carry out tasks and to respond to you. Pay attention; don’t ask them to do something you know they will not be able to do as failure is likely to cause anger.
There are coping techniques for dealing with aggressive behaviour that may help you. These include:
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- explaining that the behaviour is not acceptable
- asking friends and family to support you by giving the same message
- being firm but polite
- explaining that you are frightened or upset